If you have been going steady with one man for some time now but you are still in doubt about the direction of your relationship, then you might be with a man who has problems with commitment. Many men want a strong relationship but are afraid to commit themselves. They will come up with any number of excuses why they can't commit to being exclusive. If you want to make him take you seriously, here are the things you can do.
Keep a Sense of Mystery
Men want to discover something new about you. Even when you have been together for several years, you can excite him when you keep some "petty secrets" for him to discover. When you reveal everything there is to reveal, there will be nothing more to look forward to about you and no more reason for the commitment.
Stop Nagging
If you want to make your man to want to commit, stop nagging him about it. You cannot push him to build a strong relationship with you if you keep on pestering him about the topic. The more you keep on bugging him about it, the more that it will not happen.
Let Him Miss You
Some men need time to realize your importance in their life. Many times, they can only feel it when you are not around. Maybe go away with some girlfriends for a few days and let him live without you. Don't call him constantly or leave the fridge stocked with food. He will realize the need for commitment once he sees your value in his life. Stop chasing him. Men value women they chase more than those who are chasing them.
Give Freedom
Many men are afraid of commitment because of the fear of losing their freedom. The problem with women is that they become too possessive of their man in a relationship. If you want to build a strong bond, you need to understand that each of you must grow separately and together as well. The same way that you need time for yourself and for your friends, give the same freedom to him. Let him feel that you will not unreasonably demand for all his time.
Wait for the Right Timing
Sometimes, your man is just waiting for the right time to propose about the commitment. Do not push yourself too soon to his life by moving into his house, introducing yourself to his friends or going out with his family. Wait for him to offer these things to you.
There could be certain reasons why your man is not prepared to make a commitment. By knowing his reasons, you can find ways to keep his fears away and, together, you can build a strong and lasting relationship.
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